St. Valentine's Day is the actual name of V-Day. It was the commemoration of one or more Christian Martyrs (saints) with that name and was a feast day. It became a day of spreading affectionate love in the Middle Ages but was deleted from the Roman Calendar of Saints in 1969. Sorry, guys, Hallmark didn't exist in the Middle Ages.
Now, it seems like the day you realize you're single. That's why me and a friend called it SAD - Singles' Awareness Day. We use to say "Happy SAD" which is exactly the emotions you see people having that day; Happy and Sad. People often say things to justify their feelings about the holiday. If it didn't matter so much to everyone, why have you been ranting about it since mid January? I've seen so much bitching and not just from women. I came up with a few categories of people I've seen via Twitter, Facebook, and outside of social networks over the years. These are several of the most common:
The Immature lover
"I'm so in love I wanna tell everyone." Girl, bye. They tell everyone what they received no matter how inconsiderate it may be. She can't wait until Feb 14th. She rubs the fact others may be a side chick because they don't have gifts or valentines. She's been waiting on this day since she's gotten in the relationship. But if it's not what she would like it to be, she doesn't say anything or makes it seem like it was more than it was. She'll feel less embarrassed that way.
Big Bad Wolf/Mr Wolf in Sheep's Clothing
He's going to take pictures of what he did for his girl/main chick for V-Day and post them. He's a dog, but he makes himself look like he's the best bf ever. His side chicks get upset by all the postings. He talks about how much he loves her on today and it's all about her. The girls friends comment all on the pics like "awwww, there are good men out there." His girl floating all happy for now and thinks she's on, but they go through problems all the time. He putting up these pics because he knows the hoes gone flock.
Miss High Horse
"I'm just doing me. I don't need a day to make me feel special." She hates V-Day because she's lonely. She gets more angrier as the day gets closer. She may be a side chick or just never had a valentine, so she gets pissed. She's judging others gifts and being nosey on Facebook so she can talk about it to her other bitter ass friend. She rants about how V-Day don't mean shit and blah blah blah . Yeah, go watch Lifetime and cry yourself to sleep.
"Girls, care about V-Day, but what about Sweetest Day." He's either going to sound like Drake or Kanye. No matter which one, he's salty. He's going to talk about how it's a Hallmark holiday and go on rants all because he spent a lot on a girl one year and the relationship probably ended bad. He probably went all out and she didn't do much but he didn't get salty about it until they broke up. He may even want a relationship, but whatever girl that may be interested probably backed off because of this very rant. Go listen to Take Care, no one wants to hear about your feelings on the day. You're just adding to the rest of the negative emotions.
"Some day my prince will come" He will. She's probably sad she doesn't have a valentine. She wants to be happy for other people, so she hides the fact that she probably is going to cry sometime during the day. She gets all the texts from her inconsiderate friends about what their boyfriends did for them on V-Day, so she tries to stay off Facebook and Twitter. She may try to do something nice for herself but she's going to "cry in the car." She may have had someone in mind or found out that she wasn't as special to the guy she likes. My best advice, because I've been there, is to surround yourself with happy singles and try to do something fun.
The Good Guy finishing Last
Not all good guys finish last, but a lot do. This guy likes a girl and the feelings are not reciprocated. He may want to do something for a girl, but is unsure. Instead he does something nice for his mother, sister, or good friend. When he finds someone, he'll give them the world. Hopefully it's not the wrong person because he'll change into the bitter man.
Miss Sex and the City
She's going to fuck someone during the day and will be perfectly fine with it because she got some good dick. So, she won't be sad. She's been in the other places before and that's her way of dealing with it. She may have just started enjoying her single life or is just bussin for the hell of it. Either way, she won't be bitching on Twitter.
He probably had someone who really likes him, but she was scared to bring it up. He may have someone who he was just fucking. He gone fuck the shit outta her or just shoot a text. He's not trying lead anyone on or have them think that they're more special than they really are. Later on he may say "I woulda been your valentine." Miss Hopes probably likes him, but Miss Sex and The City gone try and throw it at him.
Miss Happily Ever After
She probably had a very romantic day, but is considerate of others feelings because she's been there before. She keeps it private to make sure she doesn't make others uncomfortable. She is very much in love and is appreciative of whatever she gets. She wants everyone to have a good day and only shares get day if someone asks.
He put a lot of thought into his girl's gift. He knows that the day is special for women, so he thinks it out carefully. He probably asked one of his female friends for help. You don't have to see him posting it all over social networks because he doesn't need all the extra attention. He's a good man.
Now, all these different types of people create a emotional environment. Not everyone has had that special day or appreciates it.
Valentine's Day was easy in elementary school. You bought those box of cards from the store and everyone got something. If you had a crush you may have tried to give them one with a sweeter message. The teacher gave you a class list so no one felt got left out. Your class had a party and you got to eat sweets. In Junior High, Valentine's day got harder. You hit puberty, go through that awkward looking stage, and people start getting cliquish. You start having crushes. Student Council starts selling those carnations and kiss-o-grams and you secretly want one. Then, you get a little sad your crush didn't send you one.
I started sending myself things that said "From your Secret Admirer" to make myself feel better. One year in high school, a good friend of mine sent me a carnation. It was just from a friend, but it made me feel appreciated. As much as people criticize it, I feel like Valentine's Day makes you feel loved and appreciated. Yes, you should feel like this all year, but that doesn't mean this day doesn't matter.
I've been through a lot of different stages through my life on February 14th. Most of them have not been good experiences. I can not lie that I've been one of the girls who's longed to have a special day like this because I never had a Valentine. I've just never been in a significant enough relationship. I've played the side chick before and the girl who just ends up sleeping with someone that night. The one year I did have a boyfriend, he ruined it. I got dinner a week late after I had gotten us tickets to a concert on Vday. I felt like he didn't care. When @JustMentionTT had mentioned on Twitter during my V-Day Survey that no gifts means the end of the relationship, I could relate because it had happened to me. I think the part that hurt the most that year is that I'm not hard to please. I just wanted to feel special that day.
I don't really know my exact purpose for this post. I'm sure lots of people can relate. I have no answers for your problems, but I hope you enjoyed. I really just want you all to shut up with all the bitching because I'm pretty sure it's not benefiting to the morale of this time of year. Seems like everyone either hates the day or loves it. Just don't ruin it for others. Be considerate.